1) I Love My Child Exactly As They Are – This is an important one to affirm especially at times when a parent is struggling with their child’s behaviour, for e.g., when the child may be having a lot of tantrums & other behaviour challenges. Behaviour Analysts highlight that it is important for parents to remember that their child’s behaviour does not define who their child is, & it is just a way of behaving their child is choosing to do at this time, but who they are underneath it all doesn’t change from the wonderful person that they are. Parent affirmations are a wonderful way of reminding yourself this.
2) I Forgive Myself For Not Being The Perfect Parent – At times all parents struggle with parenting & being “the perfect parent”. This can at times show itself when parents struggle with managing anger, etc. Behaviour Therapists point out that when these feelings of guilt occur, rather than parents simply beating themselves up about it, instead it is more beneficial for parents to pause & think about what they can do to make improvements to how they are responding for the better.
3) It Is Ok To Slow Down In Order To Be Present For My Child – When a parent is too busy & doesn’t make the time for quality, daily one-to-one time with their child, studies in the field of Behaviour Analysis show that this can lead to the child competing for the parent’s attention, in the form of sibling rivalry, & attention seeking behaviours, etc.
4) How Tidy/Untidy My House Is At The End Of The Day, Does Not Represent How Good I Am As A Mother – When parents, especially mothers, compare themselves to what other parents/influencers show on social media, they can feel a pressure to have it all together, i.e., to have an instagrammable house, instagrammable dinners, etc. This at times then, can put the pressure on parents (in particular mothers) to put a lot of focus on keeping the house to a high standard, which can lead to burn out on the parent’s behalf, as they try to juggle the day-to-day tasks that need to be done, while also giving their children all the time & attention that they need. This affirmation is just to reiterate that how tidy/untidy a person’s house is at the end of the day, does not represent how good they are as a parent.
5) I Am The Parent My Child Needs – Everyone has so many good points, while everyone also has their flaws. Unfortunately though, the mind is programmed to sway towards the negative more so, & in this way, at times, parents can beat themselves up about whether someone else would do a better job at being a parent than them. However, parent affirmations such as this, reminds parents in these times of doubt, that they are good enough, & to keep going.
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